What to say Yes or No to?

by josimpson on September 13, 2018

Yes and No are two of the most powerful words in the English language, yet are often used without too much thinking, only later to cause regrets to you and your business.

Have you ever said ‘Yes’ and then kicked yourself afterwards because you wished you had said ‘No’, but maybe wanted to please someone or appear helpful in that moment. Or you have said No to something and realised later on that in fact it was a good opportunity and Yes would have been the right answer.

The benefit of hindsight is a wonderful thing, yet we do have the power to make the right decision in that moment, even if that initial decision is to pause and say “I’ll get back to you”

Tuning in to your intuition is another great way – your gut feeling is always a good indicator, but what if you want something a little more concrete and conscious to confirm you are indeed making the right choice in that moment.

Your core values are at the heart of every decision you make and they are your intuition made conscious, so it’s vital that we are aware of what they are and make them alive and active in all our decision making.

Once you have taken the time to define your Core Values and what they mean to you, your teams and your business, they become an anchor point for you to set your boundaries – i.e. what you are prepared to do and what you aren’t prepared to do.

By making decisions in line with your values and boundaries, you are at Conscious Choice, which will make you feel more empowered, confident and at ease.

Here is a quick checklist to help your decision making:

Dis-Empowering Reasons

  1. Am I making it because I feel I should, must, ought to or got to (SMOG)?

  2. Am I making it for others and not myself?

  3. Am I feeling guilty if I don’t do

Empowering Reasons

  1. Is this line with my Values?

  2. Is this decision within my Boundaries?

  3. Does this keep me in Balance?

Also, check-in with the following?

  1. How many of my Values does it meet? If only 1 or 2 of them, am I happy why I am making that decision (i.e. short term decision)

  2. Does it meet my high priority (core) values or is it just meeting low priority ones? Can I live with that?

If a decision doesn’t meet all of your Values and you know WHY, then you are making a more conscious informed decision and as a result, you are better able to stay in balance, because you are being true to yourself and your business.

And when a decision meets as many of your Values, as possible then Woo-Hoo, you feel alive, excited and fulfilled.

So the next time, you find yourself saying YES to something, check in with the above and ask yourself, if I say YES to this, what am I saying NO to? 


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